Robin Bass embarked on the life changing journey to become a mother. As a child, she dreamed of motherhood, watching her parents’ ability to be amazing role models. In her 30s, she realized that traditional parenthood with a life partner was not her destiny. She achieved her goal of motherhood by undergoing therapy, several inseminations, and relying on a strong family network.

As a single mother by choice, Robin mentors women who are in the process of making their family decisions. She continues to write on Substack, where she shares advice to help support women in the parenthood process. 

She is a member of Mocha SMC (Single Mothers by Choice) and the Single Mothers by Choice community. Robin is an active member of the National Association of Memoir Writers, the Black Authors Association, Pitch to Publish Writers Group.

Robin has sat on two women’s health panels and is scheduled to be interviewed on the single mothers podcast.

BECOMING TWO: A STORY OF SINGLE MOTHERHOOD BY CHOICE tells the personal story of a mother’s path from making the decision to become a single parent through birth and parenting. Every Tick Tock, my biological clock is on high alert – I didn’t need a prince to whisk me away to live happily ever after. As a child, I wanted to have Cinderella’s life, which I imagined involved children. Fast forward to a 30something woman with no marriage prospects, I feared that my dream ending wouldn’t come true. Until a local newscaster shared her story and announced her pregnancy. Because of this story, I realized my fairy was possible. With this news story, my life changed.

With the help of reproductive hormones and an unknown donor, I thought pregnancy would be easy. Patiently waiting for the white stick to show two bold lines, but not my luck. Six failed inseminations and devastating missed moments pushed doubt, fear and guilt into my mind. With my extended family’s support, I gave it one more try. This time, my white stick showed two lines – I am expecting. Sharing my journey will act as a guide for other women to push forward and not give up on their motherhood journey.

Because I said so…..

“Because I said so” words that I heard as a child. My mother would use these words when she didn’t want to explain further. If I asked “why” after 2 answers usually I would hear those words – Because I said So. I knew that meant I was pushing my luck. I hated those words.…


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